How To Be Happy
How To Be Happy
One day, there was an old lady who was walking and was carrying something heavy. I helped her with her belongings and walked with her to the station. The old lady said, "Thank you," and got on the elevator.
This "thank you" was such a beautiful experience that it enriched my day. Receiving "thank you" leads to happiness.
weBelong is about friendship, and social media for giving. By giving your kindness, you can make your day.
Social media for getting
Social media is used to be about getting something from others. On tiktok Instagram and Snapchat, everyone is trying to get attention, getting views and likes.
People are just seeking for what they need, they don't care about what you get. That's why people are okay with spreading fake news.
Tiktok and mental health
Tiktok and depression
According to a Southwest University study published in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, tiktok use promotes increased depression and anxiety, resulting in a working The study suggested that tiktok use may have an impact on memory.
There has been debate about smartphones and their impact on working memory, particularly with regard to ADHD. In fact, under the name Digital Dementia, smartphones and social media use have been largely linked. The current study suggests that problematic smartphone use may actually weaken working memory.
Furthermore, the researchers believe that this working memory deficit may be related to depression and anxiety, which are on the rise among avid social media users. Notably, a number of studies suggest that depression and anxiety affect working memory capacity.
*"The survey was distributed to 3,036 high school students. Students completed an adapted version of the Smartphone Addiction Scale, Short Version, in which "smartphone" was replaced by "TikTok." This was used as an indicator of TikTok Use Disorder (TTUD) and addressed factors such as interference with daily life and withdrawal. Students also measured depression, anxiety, and stress.
Next, students engaged in forward and backward digit span tests to assess verbal working memory. These tests assessed the ability to recall a sequence of digits presented on a screen and repeat them in the same or reverse order.
Across the sample, students who scored higher on the TikTok Use Disorder performed worse on both the forward and backward digit span tests, suggesting a decline in working memory capacity in students with a tendency to rely on TikTok. These students also had higher depression, anxiety, and stress scores.
As hypothesized by the researchers, depression, anxiety, and stress appear to at least partially explain why problematic use of TikTok was associated with lower working memory. Depression and anxiety partially mediated the effects between TTUD and forward digit span memory performance. Depression, anxiety, and stress partially mediated the effects between TTUD and backward digit span memory performance."*
Fake information on Tiktok is harmful to your mental health
In recent years, there has been an increase in the number of teenagers with psychiatric disorders such as Tourette's syndrome, borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia, which are rare among teenagers. One commonality among teens who see psychologists is that they are consuming mental health content on TikTok and may be suffering from incorrect self-diagnosis of mental illness.
While mental health awareness is surely a good thing, well-meaning influencers are inadvertently harming young, impressionable viewers, many of whom seem to be incorrectly self-diagnosing with disorders or suddenly manifesting symptoms because they are now aware of them.
SnapChat and Instagram are the worst for mental health
Instagram and Snapchat are most detrimental to the mental health and wellbeing of young people, according to the #StatusOfMind report released by the Royal Society for Public Health (RSPH) and the Young Health Movement (YHM) The #StatusOfMind report.
Earlier this year, RSPH/YHM conducted a survey of nearly 1,500 young people (ages 14-24) in the UK. The survey asked them to score each of the social media platforms they use and how they impact their health and wellbeing.
The results showed that Snapchat and Instagram were the worst for youth mental health.
The survey found that SnapChat and Instagram cause Body Image issues, bullying issues, and sleep problems.
SnapChat and Instagram causes the worst dysphoria
According to the research done by Beijin University and Macquarie University of 481 college students, the study suggests that as people spend more time looking at selfies, they may become more dissatisfied with their faces. Furthermore, the more time spent looking at selfies (and checking their likes and comments), people may compare themselves more with others. This may lead to even more self-criticism.
Instagram and Snapchat only amplifies this pressure. The images you see do not accurately and realistically portray who people really are. However, in addition to applying filters and editing to selfies, people can also post only images that reflect their "best" selves, not "true" selves.
Social media for getting causes problems
Some of influencers have good intentions to spread mental health awareness, but not all are good. Some of them take advantage of the fake news to get more likes and followers. That is because they need to get followers to be influencers.
Current attention economy is not perfect and that causes the problems of mental health issues among teens.
Social media should be for giving
Current social media is designed to only get from you, not giving you. Those social media amplify your mental health issues.
How to make social media for giving
Why do people not care about giving on social media? Social media nowadays is about competitions for getting followers and likes. To get more followers, you are forced to create "cool" contents which are not authentic, and that is because the algorithm on social media is about popularity. The more likes and followers you get on social media, the more followers you get. This will lead you to post something different from the reality you face, which is to get likes from others or to get the algorithm's attention.
No followers and likes
That is why weBelong does not show number of followers others have, number of likes others have on the posts.
Since you don't have to care about others followers, all you need is to help others, talk with people, all about giving.
No algorithm that customize only your preference
On Tiktok, Instagram, and SnapChat, contents you see are customized for you, that accelerate influencers to have more influence on you.
What they care about is number of followers and likes, not you. The contents you see are actually not for you.
Communities which have supportive systems will help you as well, and that will make you want to help others.
In the community, there are people who faces challenges that you have experienced and people who are getting some troubles which you know how to solve.
Helping those people is the most enjoyable part of the community.
Giving is caring
How to buy happiness
According to the psychologist Michael Norton, you can buy happiness. By their research, giving money to someone else was found to increase happiness more than spending money on oneself.
UBC researchers handed envelopes filled with money to students on campus. Recipients were told to spend $5 or $20 that day, either for themselves, someone else, or to donate the money to charity.
The result was that, again, it didn't matter how much money they spent, it mattered who they spent it on. Whether it was $5 or $20, the results showed that people were happier when they spent money on others, regardless of the amount.
Gratitude is the key
Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough, co-directors of the Research Project on Gratitude and Thankfulness, have found that when college students are taught to "count and appreciate their blessings," they exercise more, are more optimistic, and feel better about life They have found that college students who are taught to "count and appreciate their blessings" become more athletic, more optimistic, and feel better about life as a whole. A recent study led by Nathaniel Lambert of Florida State University found that expressing gratitude to a close friend or romantic partner strengthens one's sense of connection with that person.
Start giving together with weBelong
weBelong is social media for giving. Instead of pursuing to get more followers or likes, let's start helping people, giving people new ideas, giving people feeling of belonging.